Listening and Understanding Each Other
You need to really listen to what your partner says. Keep silent when they are talking and try to understand exactly what it is they are saying. If you don’t completely understand, wait until they are done talking, and then ask questions and discuss it until you do understand. This is a really big problem in relationships – people do not really listen which causes misunderstandings.

You Must Maintain A Positive Attitude
When you are trying to resolve issues, you should begin with a positive attitude.  Remember the great times you had together and how you might get back to that point. Set aside all negative thoughts and only think positively about working out your problems.

Both Partners Have To Be Involved
Both partners must be involved in repairing the relationship. It can not be a one sided effort. You both must be committed to resolving the problems. If only one of you is willing to work at it, it will not happen.

Always Stay Calm
Although you are upset about the circumstances, you must remember that staying calm will accomplish more than being hostile or angry.  If you feel the anger creeping up, take a few deep breaths. Don’t scream and don’t blurt out angry words before you think about them.

Give Each Other Some Space To Think
You both need to take some time alone to think over the situation and decide what your true feelings are. Many times, this will give you a new perspective on the relationship. Stepping back from the situation allows you to miss your partner and possibly discover some new solutions to your problems.

Remember, your relationship is not over until you both have tried everything possible to rescue it. If you both work at it and use these strategies, you can save your relationship and make it stronger than ever.  Sometimes a relationship stalls and one feels the need to break up, but if you both work at resolving the issues, they can usually be overcome.

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Many people make the mistake of thinking they have to dive right into a new relationship. They think that they can not emotionally make it by themselves. It is very hard to be by yourself when you are used to having someone there with you.  You begin to wonder if you can survive the breakup without going crazy.

You should turn to friends and family at this time, not another partner. Go out and have fun with friends. Spend time with your family. Stay busy with activities and hobbies that you enjoy. The busier you are, the less you will think about the break up. Slowly in time, you will think less and less about it.  You will survive the breakup, it will just take time.

Take time to discover the new you – the one without your ex partner. Spend some quiet time reflecting on how you want your life to proceed. Visualize what you will be doing in the future.   Meditation audios are helpful to relax and calm your worries and fears. They relieve stress and help you to delve into the real you.

Before you start a new relationship, you need to figure out exactly what qualities you would like in a new partner. Start by writing a list of the qualities you expect. Sometimes it helps to write down what you don’t want in order to figure out what you do want. Such as – I don’t want someone who is always jealous. Turn it around to say – I want someone who is trusting.

Think about what went wrong in your last relationship, what compromises you made, and how your next relationship will be different.

Remember, you don’t need to rush into a new relationship. Rebound romances never work out. Take the time you need to recover from the break up. The right person for you will appear when you least expect it.  Don’t ask “how can I survive my breakup?”, ask “how can I improve my life and be happier?”.

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Take a good look at the whole situation.  Was it something you did, or something you didn’t do?  Was it your fault or was it your partners fault?  Rule out what you have no control over and focus on the things you can change.  If you decide that the problem is something that you caused and that you can change, then you probably can get back together if you are willing to make the necessary changes to make it work.

Now you need to take action to get your ex back.  Don’t act needy and definitely don’t act desperate.  You may need to minimize your contact with them for a while.  This will allow your ex some time to think and to realize how much they miss you.  When you do communicate, be a good listener.  This is the key to finding out exactly what they are thinking.  Be sweet and kind but not pushy.  Casually bring up some of the good times that you had together.  Make them think about all the wonderful memories you shared.

You also need to get out and socialize.  Not dating, but just going out with friends.  When your ex sees you going out, they will realize you are not just sitting home moping and they may start to worry.

This is going to be a stressful and trying time for you, but you will get through it.  Try to slowly open the lines of communication. If you both can be honest about your feelings, you should have a better relationship than before the breakup.

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