With more than half of all marriages ending in divorce, it makes you wonder what has gone wrong.  Can you simply fall out of  love?  I have heard people say that “they love their spouse, but they are not IN love with them“.

You have to realize that the “fireworks” that you experience in the beginning of a relationship will eventually tone down.  Is this what people are craving is the “fireworks” and when it fizzles down they are saying that they are not “IN” love anymore?  It’s something to think about.

Relationships do take some work – a lot of compromise on both sides.  You need to take some time by yourself, in quiet meditation, and really think this through.  Visualize your life without your partner.  Would it make you happy?  Would you miss them?  What would you be doing?  Would you be lonely?  How would your life change?

Don’t make any spur of the moment decisions; take your time.  Is it possible to have an open and honest discussion with your spouse?  Would it help?   Can the problems be worked out?

Your happiness is what matters the most.  You have to do what is right for you, but don’t rush into a breakup without really thinking it through.  Follow your intuition.  It is usually right.