You may be asking, how do I improve my self esteem?  In order to improve it, we must first understand what it is.  Self esteem is all of the beliefs and feelings that we have about ourselves.  These beliefs begin to form when we are just children.  They affect all aspects of our life.    Low self esteem can alter your potential to be successful in your career, love life and relationships, and directly influences your happiness and well being.

In order to change your self esteem, you need to change the thoughts you have.  Low self esteem is caused by the negative thoughts we have about ourselves.  You must stop criticizing yourself,  instead boost yourself up.  None of us are perfect.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  And above all else, don’t compare yourself to others.  You are special and unique and you shouldn’t try to be like anyone else.

Focus your thoughts on your achievements instead of your failures.  Reward yourself when you are successful.  It helps to write in a journal every day and record your achievements and progress, and to work through your problems.   Writing down your feelings and worries can help you to realize what it is that you are really thinking.

Use visualization to help you increase your self esteem.  Sit quietly, close your eyes and visualize yourself as confident, happy and successful.  Visualize meeting your perfect mate.  Spend 15- 30 minutes every day in quiet meditation picturing how you want your life to progress.  You will be amazed how much this will help you.

It is not always easy to change our way of thinking, but in order to live a better life, you must improve your self esteem.  When you are confident and happy, you are more attractive to potential mates.   You should  focus on yourself; be kind to yourself and work hard to rid yourself of those negative thoughts.  You can do it.

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Many people make the mistake of thinking they have to dive right into a new relationship. They think that they can not emotionally make it by themselves. It is very hard to be by yourself when you are used to having someone there with you.  You begin to wonder if you can survive the breakup without going crazy.

You should turn to friends and family at this time, not another partner. Go out and have fun with friends. Spend time with your family. Stay busy with activities and hobbies that you enjoy. The busier you are, the less you will think about the break up. Slowly in time, you will think less and less about it.  You will survive the breakup, it will just take time.

Take time to discover the new you – the one without your ex partner. Spend some quiet time reflecting on how you want your life to proceed. Visualize what you will be doing in the future.   Meditation audios are helpful to relax and calm your worries and fears. They relieve stress and help you to delve into the real you.

Before you start a new relationship, you need to figure out exactly what qualities you would like in a new partner. Start by writing a list of the qualities you expect. Sometimes it helps to write down what you don’t want in order to figure out what you do want. Such as – I don’t want someone who is always jealous. Turn it around to say – I want someone who is trusting.

Think about what went wrong in your last relationship, what compromises you made, and how your next relationship will be different.

Remember, you don’t need to rush into a new relationship. Rebound romances never work out. Take the time you need to recover from the break up. The right person for you will appear when you least expect it.  Don’t ask “how can I survive my breakup?”, ask “how can I improve my life and be happier?”.

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Each person in a relationship needs to take time each day for themselves.  Time to do what they want to do and quiet time to reflect on how their life is going.  We live in such a hectic, people filled world, that it is essential to have some reflective time to ourselves.  Fifteen to thirty minutes of meditation a day can drastically improve every aspect of your life.  When you feel less stress, you are apt to be more patient and kind in your relationship.

If you can, it is helpful to get away together, even if it is just for one night.  When you are away, you can concentrate on each other without the interruptions you have at home.  It is somehow more romantic when you are away from home.  You feel more relaxed.  Try to get away at least a few times a year.  You will come home feeling like a new person.

It is essential that you each have your own friends and activities apart from each other.  Yes, it is important to spend time together, but it is also important to spend time apart.  You appreciate each other more when you  spend some time apart.

Say I love you often.  When you say it, also say why you love them.   We are in the habit of saying I love you  and sometimes it loses its meaning.  But when you add on why you love them, it makes it more meaningful.  As an example, you could say “I love you,  you are so patient with me”.  This also reminds you  of the many reasons you love your partner.

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To prepare physically, you just need to look the best that you can. This will give you more confidence. You know the routine – haircut, nails trimmed and clean, clothes ironed and clean, teeth clean and white, cleanly shaved, and all the other grooming necessary to make you look good. Make sure you always look your best when you go out – you never know who you’ll meet.

You must feel confident and relaxed enough to be able to enjoy a date. If you have issues from a previous involvement, these should be addressed and resolved before you start dating again. You need to give yourself some quiet time alone and close out that relationship for good. Daily meditation can do wonders for helping resolve issues.

Now you just need to get out. It’s as simple as that. Start doing activities that you enjoy. Go out with friends. Join clubs. The more you are out, the better chance you have of finding someone. You’ll find that when your friends and family know that you are ready to start dating again, they will start looking to fix you up with someone they know. Dating services are an option to think about. They match your personalities up so you can find someone who is compatible and likes to do the same things you do.

Think positive – have fun and the right person will soon find you.

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With more than half of all marriages ending in divorce, it makes you wonder what has gone wrong.  Can you simply fall out of  love?  I have heard people say that “they love their spouse, but they are not IN love with them“.

You have to realize that the “fireworks” that you experience in the beginning of a relationship will eventually tone down.  Is this what people are craving is the “fireworks” and when it fizzles down they are saying that they are not “IN” love anymore?  It’s something to think about.

Relationships do take some work – a lot of compromise on both sides.  You need to take some time by yourself, in quiet meditation, and really think this through.  Visualize your life without your partner.  Would it make you happy?  Would you miss them?  What would you be doing?  Would you be lonely?  How would your life change?

Don’t make any spur of the moment decisions; take your time.  Is it possible to have an open and honest discussion with your spouse?  Would it help?   Can the problems be worked out?

Your happiness is what matters the most.  You have to do what is right for you, but don’t rush into a breakup without really thinking it through.  Follow your intuition.  It is usually right.

Basically, we create our own reality by attracting those things in our life (money, relationships, jobs) that we focus the most on.  The Law of Attraction theory is very simple, although putting it into practice on a conscious level takes some work.  The three steps are to:

Ask – You must know exactly what you want. The universe can’t deliver without  knowing precisely what it is that you want.  You must REALLY want it. Be passionate about it and ask for what you want.

Believe – You must truly believe that what you are asking for will be yours. Push all doubts away.   Act as if it is already yours.  Think of how happy you will feel.

Receive – It is very important that you become active in reaching your goal. When an opportunity comes your way, don’t hesitate, just do it.   When you get a feeling that you should be somewhere or should be doing something, trust your intuition, it could lead you to your goal.

Now, back to how to attract your true love.  The first thing you must do is to vividly picture in your mind the perfect mate.  What do they look like?  How do they sound?  Have a clear vision of their personality.  Picture yourselves together.   Think of this picture often during the day.

It is also helpful to use meditation to put you in an alpha state and then visualize you and your true love.  Believe in your mind that you have already found your true love and be ready to receive them.

This method takes practice; the more you practice, the better you are at visualizing and making them become reality.

Give it a try – I think you’ll be happy when you finally attract your true love.

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