You may be asking, how do I improve my self esteem?  In order to improve it, we must first understand what it is.  Self esteem is all of the beliefs and feelings that we have about ourselves.  These beliefs begin to form when we are just children.  They affect all aspects of our life.    Low self esteem can alter your potential to be successful in your career, love life and relationships, and directly influences your happiness and well being.

In order to change your self esteem, you need to change the thoughts you have.  Low self esteem is caused by the negative thoughts we have about ourselves.  You must stop criticizing yourself,  instead boost yourself up.  None of us are perfect.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  And above all else, don’t compare yourself to others.  You are special and unique and you shouldn’t try to be like anyone else.

Focus your thoughts on your achievements instead of your failures.  Reward yourself when you are successful.  It helps to write in a journal every day and record your achievements and progress, and to work through your problems.   Writing down your feelings and worries can help you to realize what it is that you are really thinking.

Use visualization to help you increase your self esteem.  Sit quietly, close your eyes and visualize yourself as confident, happy and successful.  Visualize meeting your perfect mate.  Spend 15- 30 minutes every day in quiet meditation picturing how you want your life to progress.  You will be amazed how much this will help you.

It is not always easy to change our way of thinking, but in order to live a better life, you must improve your self esteem.  When you are confident and happy, you are more attractive to potential mates.   You should  focus on yourself; be kind to yourself and work hard to rid yourself of those negative thoughts.  You can do it.

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Listening and Understanding Each Other
You need to really listen to what your partner says. Keep silent when they are talking and try to understand exactly what it is they are saying. If you don’t completely understand, wait until they are done talking, and then ask questions and discuss it until you do understand. This is a really big problem in relationships – people do not really listen which causes misunderstandings.

You Must Maintain A Positive Attitude
When you are trying to resolve issues, you should begin with a positive attitude.  Remember the great times you had together and how you might get back to that point. Set aside all negative thoughts and only think positively about working out your problems.

Both Partners Have To Be Involved
Both partners must be involved in repairing the relationship. It can not be a one sided effort. You both must be committed to resolving the problems. If only one of you is willing to work at it, it will not happen.

Always Stay Calm
Although you are upset about the circumstances, you must remember that staying calm will accomplish more than being hostile or angry.  If you feel the anger creeping up, take a few deep breaths. Don’t scream and don’t blurt out angry words before you think about them.

Give Each Other Some Space To Think
You both need to take some time alone to think over the situation and decide what your true feelings are. Many times, this will give you a new perspective on the relationship. Stepping back from the situation allows you to miss your partner and possibly discover some new solutions to your problems.

Remember, your relationship is not over until you both have tried everything possible to rescue it. If you both work at it and use these strategies, you can save your relationship and make it stronger than ever.  Sometimes a relationship stalls and one feels the need to break up, but if you both work at resolving the issues, they can usually be overcome.

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