You may be asking, how do I improve my self esteem?  In order to improve it, we must first understand what it is.  Self esteem is all of the beliefs and feelings that we have about ourselves.  These beliefs begin to form when we are just children.  They affect all aspects of our life.    Low self esteem can alter your potential to be successful in your career, love life and relationships, and directly influences your happiness and well being.

In order to change your self esteem, you need to change the thoughts you have.  Low self esteem is caused by the negative thoughts we have about ourselves.  You must stop criticizing yourself,  instead boost yourself up.  None of us are perfect.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  And above all else, don’t compare yourself to others.  You are special and unique and you shouldn’t try to be like anyone else.

Focus your thoughts on your achievements instead of your failures.  Reward yourself when you are successful.  It helps to write in a journal every day and record your achievements and progress, and to work through your problems.   Writing down your feelings and worries can help you to realize what it is that you are really thinking.

Use visualization to help you increase your self esteem.  Sit quietly, close your eyes and visualize yourself as confident, happy and successful.  Visualize meeting your perfect mate.  Spend 15- 30 minutes every day in quiet meditation picturing how you want your life to progress.  You will be amazed how much this will help you.

It is not always easy to change our way of thinking, but in order to live a better life, you must improve your self esteem.  When you are confident and happy, you are more attractive to potential mates.   You should  focus on yourself; be kind to yourself and work hard to rid yourself of those negative thoughts.  You can do it.

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The first thing you need to do is to focus on what really is happening, not what could happen.  Jealousy is often the fear of something that could happen.  If there is no reason for these thoughts of jealousy, you need to try and stay focused on the present and not what you think could happen.  You are really missing out if you spend your time imaging the bad things that can happen instead of enjoying your relationship.

You need to stop comparing yourself to others.  Love yourself for who you are.  Insecurity about yourself breeds jealousy.  If you don’t feel good about yourself, other people won’t feel good about you either.  Remember, you are unique and your partner is with you because they were attracted to your qualities.

If your jealousy stems from a previous relationship in which you were cheated on, you need to forgive and forget.  You have to let go of the past before it ruins your future.  You must trust in yourself enough that you have chosen the right partner, one who wouldn’t hurt you.  There is always risk in relationships, but you must learn to trust your partner.  If you don’t, you will end up driving them away.  Jealousy is a very unattractive emotion.

What it all boils down to is the feelings you have about yourself.  Improve your self esteem, love who you are and your jealousy will melt away.

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People have a tendency to try to be the person that they think their date wants them to be.  They feel that they will hook them in and then they can go back to their normal selves.  This is a big mistake.  If your date is not attracted to the real you, then you need to find someone else.

If it is a matter of your self esteem, and you think that no one will be attracted to the real you, then you need to work on this before you get involved in a serious relationship.   It is important to feel good about yourself.  You need to have confidence in yourself and your ability to be a good partner.

Before your date, look in the mirror and give yourself a pep talk .  Tell yourself what a wonderful, loving, fun person you are.  Say that everyone that meets you falls in love with you.  Really play it up!!!  Give yourself a great big smile.  Feel better??

You also need to accept your date as they are.  Never think that you can change someone.   If their behavior is not acceptable to you, don’t think that you will work on changing them later.  It usually doesn’t happen, and you don’t have the right to try to change them anyway.  Don’t think that you must find someone who is absolutely perfect – that doesn’t happen either.  There is always some compromise in a relationship.

So take a deep breath, put a smile on your face and have a great date!!